This booklet helps loved ones understand why their well-meaning advice is not always well-received. It is cherished by both those living with illness or injury and those who love them! "But You LOOK Good!" helps others realize that even though a person with a chronic condition may LOOK good, it does not mean they FEEL good! Moreover, it gives them simple, pragmatic ways to truly be an encouragement, "What to say," "What not to say" and "Why," along with "How to help."  

   Wayne Connell founded The Invisible Disabilities Advocate in order to develop compassion and understanding for those with debilitating illnesses and injuries. He was inspired by his wife, Sherri's struggles with her disability and support. Sherri studied music Theatre for 4 years in college where she was very active in singing and dancing in musicals. She obtained a Bachelor’s Degree in Human Resource Management and a Bachelor’s degree in Leadership with a minor in Liberal Arts. However, despite plans of a promising career, just before beginning her Master’s Degree she became very ill and unable to fulfill her lifelong dreams.

   Although Sherri lives with Multiple Sclerosis and Lyme Disease, to most, she does not look disabled. Even so, she struggles just to wash her hair or go to a doctor’s appointment. As a result, she knows first hand the pain and frustration that develops from being trapped inside a body that will no longer cooperate with a person’s aspirations or even simple daily chores.  

   Therefore, Wayne discovered the imperative need to educate others on how to be a source of support and encouragement to those living with Invisible Disabilities. In order to develop a greater sense of understanding and awareness, Wayne and Sherri have dedicated their experiences and trials to informing others about the needs and hurdles of living with a debilitating condition. Their goal is not to create a sense of pity, but compassion for their losses, respect for their courage and belief that their limitations are real.